Relationship Break Up Advice To Spot The Signs of Emotional Abuse Part 2

After a tough breakup, you will naturally focus on the  past memories of your ex (frankly you can’t help it), ‘what could have’ or ‘should been done differently, what’s happened…and how you ended up where you are today.

You many have even started thinking about past relationships, the things that could have been done differently if you ‘done or said things’ at the right time (let’s be honest there’s no right time, you can do what’s right at the time. So don’t be hard on yourself!!).

As with all break ups, after awhile, you start moving on  – it’s no longer the painful open wound it once was.  As it’s no longer the your primary focus in your life, calmness replaces that tornado of feelings you once had, and you can even think to yourself. Now, what’s next?

It’s time to take stock from the ‘ghosts or the past relationships’ and wonder, are there some common patterns that keep happening over and over again?  If so, what could they be?  Sometimes a period of quite reflection can just what you need to regroup and know what you ‘do and don’t want’ in your next relationship.  After all, it takes a brave person to stop and stand still before jumping into there next relationship.

But when you’re ready (you will know when that will be!) Now, is time for you to smile and move on again.  That past relationship really doesn’t hurt as much as it used to. Your past does no longer linger on because you have left that person where they belong- in the past.  You can even start to be objective and honest about this former lover and wonder what was so ‘attractive about this person in the first place’

So at that stage, you’ll want to start ‘getting out there’ and want to  meet someone new-  still you should be careful to not fall into the same traps of past mistakes.  Set some standards about ‘what you want in your next relationship’ and stick to them.  Relationships are ‘give and take’; still, you have to have ‘boundaries and deal breakers’ to protect yourself.  This will prevent from going for someone who does not possess those qualities you’re looking for and prevent you from repeating patterns which only harm and not help you.

And when you are sure enough about what you really want- don’t compromise.   Do something as simple as making a list of all your expectations; this will prevent you from making bad decision and compromising your happiness by choosing the wrong one, the second time around.

This is why a break up a can be best thing to happen you because it can be an opportunity to grow discover the most important person in your life – YOU!  And you will be grateful your ex ended with and gave you the opportunity to meet the person you meant to be with.

As mentioned in part 1, people are connected and linked by so many strings that severing one tie won’t necessarily end the relationship, as there are so many ties connected.

When you make the decision to end a relationship in cyberspace you’re not ending it with the person concerned, you’re also ending the relationship with their network of friends and acquaintances.

In the past when a relationship was over, you could easily cut your former lover from your life [and from your photos].  Unfortunately, with the digital age those same happy and smiling photos are freely available on Facebook – making them not so easy to erase.

The sneaky thing about breaking up online is that those twitter tweets, that Facebook status and regular face book feeds have a way of further aggravating the situation as they find their way back to an upset ex via your social media acquaintances.  Breakups are a painful drawn out process face-to-face, but its even worse having your break up dissected and watched out of pure curiosity in a digital goldfish bowl.

If you’re experiencing the end of a relationship, a great piece of relationship break up advice is to change any shared passwords you may have with your  ex partner,  also stop posting on any social networking sites.

If possible, block your ex partner from having any contact with you.  Additionally, change your e-mail address or if that is not possible change your social media accounts to a more private status, which only a select few can have access to.

Still in some extreme cases, changing your status may not be enough, and individuals are taking relationship break up advice which is infinitely more extreme in order to rid themselves of an ex-partner …

As the old song goes “There are 50 ways to leave your lover”, and with the advancements in technology that list grows a little bit longer.  Your lover can dump you by voicemail; your lover can dump you via text message and now your lover will dump or cheat on you via a multitude of social media sites.